STOP IT!!!

STOP IT!!
“Whether you prevail or fail, endure or die, depends more on what you do to yourself than on what the world does to you.” (Jim Collins)

In this comical clip a woman complains of her many phobias. What is the therapist’s advice? He simply tells her to “Stop it!” On one level, this advice seems to make sense, yet we know it can’t work otherwise we could all solve our problems by just stopping. 
A Jewish proverb says “as a man thinks in his heart, so is he” (Proverbs 3:27). The wisdom in this text reveals that everything you think in your heart, you become and can achieve. All you have to do is look around to witness that everything you see with your eyes started with a thought in someone else’s mind. It was an internally seeded idea. 
As circumstances around your life change, you can either attribute achievement or disappointment to things you have control over, or to forces outside your influence. Whichever orientation you choose has serious consequences on your life.

A Jewish proverb says “as a man thinks in his heart, so is he” (Proverbs 3:27). The wisdom in this text reveals that everything you think in your heart, you become and can achieve. All you have to do is look around to witness that everything you see with your eyes started with a thought in someone else’s mind. It was an internally seeded idea.

In the 1960’s, Dr. Julian Rotter coined this orientation as “locus of control.” His studies revealed that our behaviors and attitudes affect the outcome of our lives. 

Essentially, how you think about yourself will determine whether you’re a victim or a victor. If you begin to believe the negative judgments of others by being externally controlled by them, then it won’t be long before you become a victim of circumstances. However, if you believe you can achieve, then you become responsible for your own success despite the opinions of other and external circumstances that are out of your control. 

In the Christian faith we are taught that God is sovereign but it also teaches God wants us to obey His commands. From this perspective, both forces are at work in our lives. Internally and externally God is at work conforming us to Christ, yet through human volition we can behave as internal people because our choices can change the course of our lives. In this matter, we are neither internal nor external but eternal.
How Can We STOP IT?!

We are not alone, the Holy Spirit through the act of sanctification, works His good in us. Through our will and choices we can cooperate with God to bring change to areas of our lives that are “stuck.” Remember that anything good that happens in our life is due to the work and blessing of God. Ask God to help you identify areas of your life that need change. 

You can also pay attention to yourself-talk. This will increase your self-awareness. When you hear yourself saying things like, “I have no choice” or “There’s nothing I can do”, step back and remind yourself that you do, in fact, have some degree of control. It’s your choice whether you exercise it or not. Remember you can do all things through Christ that strengthens you! 

When it comes to the unwarranted negative criticisms of others, recognize you always have a choice. Remember that no choice is a choice! You do not have to allow people to pull your strings. A practical step for moving towards an inward locus of control is goal setting. Establish a goal and find ways to measure your progress. This will help you see that you are controlling what happens in your daily life. This life tip will help you build self-confidence. 


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