For the past two weeks, our family has been feeling the temperature rise as the hot summer months approach the beautiful island of Puerto Rico. The truth is, the more I focus on the temperature, the more heat I feel, particularly when I am checking the thermometer. This exercise got me thinking about this quote: “Are you a thermostat or a thermometer? Do you merely reflect the environment, or do you change it? –Author Unknown. The difference between the two is that thermometers tell the temperature, whereas thermostats regulate it.
As most of you know, I am a retired police officer. One of the most valuable lessons I learned as a police officer was keeping myself centered and present when coping with every situation. Many lives, including my own, depended on my ability to gauge and regulate my inner world and outer surroundings. Honestly, this is not an emotionally controlled ability but an incredible act of the will. When I perceived danger of any kind, my emotions exploded with 4th of July fireworks due to an adrenalin rush to my brain. In these situations, I had to reach deep within myself to remain self controlled, thus de-escalating an already unstable and highly volatile climate. Essentially, I had to choose between being a thermostat or thermometer.
As a thermostat, I can be the change in a dangerous climate by using different strategies or resources that could neutralize an explosive situation. These strategies and resources included separating domestic partners, listening to an outraged citizen, making an arrest, or taking control of an out-of-control person through the appropriate use of force. These strategies were behaviors taught to me by seasoned police officers. On the contrary, as a thermometer, I could also be changed by the climate by overreacting emotionally or escalating force to an already blazing incident. In these instances, officers have the potential of doing more harm than good. I learned very quickly that how I engaged a crisis was always up to me, I always knew in the back of my mind that my actions would later be measured by a higher standard than the average citizen. In other words, I had no excuse because I was expected to perform above standard even under the most extreme circumstances.
You might be asking, “Stephen, how did you manage under such extreme conditions?” Simply put, God’s grace made the difference in my life and career as a police officer. You might say, “How does God’s grace relate to the notion of changing from a thermometer (externally driven) to a thermostat (internally driven)?” Grace is God’s own self-imposed bias, persuaded by His love for you, that downloads into your being unlimited celestial energy that you don’t inherently possess or deserve. Grace empowers you, transforms you, and makes an eternal difference. Grace installs special software into your being that enables you to become an agent of change, just like Jesus. My testimony through life and death is simply Jesus.
Grace is universally available to whoever is willing to receive it from Jesus Christ. Hebrews 13:25 says, “May God’s grace be with you all.” To everybody! It is available for you right now. You might be living like a thermometer because that’s all you know but more is available to you even if you’re living the darkest night of your soul. Grace shines the brightest in the dark. Jesus stands ready to download celestial energy into your very being that will transform you into a thermostat, if you just ask and believe Him for it. Remember, if you’re in Christ, the will of God will never take you where the grace of God cannot sustain you.
So, again, a “thermostat” changes the climate by regulating it, whereas “thermostats” are changed by the climate. How is grace helping you build your internal thermostat? Do YOU know that you can change your beliefs, thoughts, and attitudes by rewiring your mind with the Word of God? God’s Word is grace fuel that powers your thermostat, which in turn regulates your thoughts, speech and behavior. The difference will always be your choice: Will you be a catalyst or an inhibitor?
Ultimately, you and I make the difference! Grace can empower you to become the change (thermostat) you want to see in your world or you can choose to be changed (thermometer) by every external circumstance that comes your way. It will always be your choice. It will never really matter what the ‘temperature’ is—you might be surrounded by blazing flames of trial and hardships—but you’re internal thermostat can remain 70 degrees and sunny because of God’s grace. Remember, it may feel good at the moment to become a thermometer (externally driven) by ratcheting up your crazy to match another’s crazy—you may even get your way by doing so—in the end you have given your power away to another.
How can I change?
- Know the difference: Thermometers tell the temperature whereas thermostats regulate it. You can adjust to your climate or regulate it.
- Pray to God & believe the Promises of God over the areas of your life that require change.
- Pay attention to your self-talk and increase your self-awareness. When you hear yourself saying, “I have no choice,” step back and remind yourself that you always have a choice even if it’s just your attitude. Remember No choice is still a choice!
- Look for an accountability partner.
- Create SMART goals:
- Specific: Who is involved? What to accomplish? Reasons, purpose, benefits.
- Measurable: Establish concrete criteria to measure your progress
- Attainable: It must be important. You can attain anything you set your heart.
- Realistic: You must be willing and able to do it.
- Timely: Time frame. T can also stand for tangible—A goal is tangible when you can experience it with one of your senses, that is taste, touch, smell, sight or hearing.